What Is Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognise and manage both your emotions and the emotions of others. It includes regulating your own emotions and cheering up or calming down other people.
Being emotionally intelligent is important in forming good and stable relationships. The difference between Emotionally Intelligent (EI) person and the Emotionally Unintelligent (EU) is that the EI ones act in an acceptable manner in order not to hurt people while the EU ones act the way they want irrespective of who gets hurt.
So how can you tell if you’re emotionally intelligent? Below are certain signs to look out for:
1. THEY ACCEPT CRITICISMS WITHOUT ANGER, DENIAL and BLAMING SOMEONE OR PEOPLE FOR IT. Being self-aware is a sign of emotional intelligence, and this manifests itself in the ability to see your faults, accept your faults, apologize easily and learn from it without holding grudges. They’re easy going people.
- THEY EMBRACE CHANGE
Emotionally intelligent people don’t fear change; they’re flexible and always happy and ready to adapt to new circumstances. They’re always ready to learn and become better. They are open minded
THEY ARE EMPATHIC
The ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes to feel and understand what they feel is a key sign of emotional intelligence. They are able to tell when a colleague, friend or stranger is stressed, upset or in need and come to their aid without waiting to be asked for help. They are able to detect how you feel without you telling them.
THEY THINK ABOUT THEIR OWN REACTIONS
Emotionally intelligent people don’t just think about how they’re making others feel but also about how their reactions will affect others. They weigh up the pros and cons of a situation or what they want to do before going ahead to do it or not. They’re people centred. They care so much about the welfare of others.
THEY HARDLY GET OFFENDED
Most emotionally intelligent people aren’t overly sensitive. This is because if you feel secure in yourself and know who you are, it’s hard to be offended by what people say. They will go ahead to do the right thing or what will make the other person feel okay, irrespective of what people will say. They are so nice to have.
NB. It’s not everyone that has emotional intelligence; people are born with it. Others have very little or none at all. But the good news is that it can be learned. So those who lack most of these qualities can be helped to learn this intelligence in order to make them what everyone needs.
✍🏾Akoto Prosper Dyon🇬🇭